Advice for Parents with a Problematic Child

Advice for Parents with a Problematic Child 

Some sleep problems may stem from the relationship between you as parents and your child. Especially if there's a divorce... What you feel about how to respond to your baby's needs (especially at night) may be related to how you were treated when you were their age. Did you cry at night too? If your answer is yes and you remember it, even thinking that your baby is crying for just two minutes can upset you greatly. If you are roughly the same age as your spouse and have similar backgrounds and cultures, it's highly likely that their family is similar to yours, meaning they were likely raised with the same methods. If this is the case, it's very normal for them to feel the same way you do when the baby cries. On the other hand, your spouse's memories might not be the same as yours; their childhood might have been more secure, loving, and complete. They want their child to have a childhood like theirs, but still, as a child whose every need was met in the past, they are likely to feel less distressed when the baby cries. Because they cannot fully predict what the baby is going through or feeling at that moment. Therefore, they might be more eager to follow the advice of leaving the baby alone to cry "when necessary." It is important for your relationship that both you and your spouse know what you are doing and why you are doing it. You need to share your thoughts on sleep issues at a time when both of you can focus, and discuss what you want to change about it. But don't do this at hours when both of you are dying of sleep deprivation!